The Art of Tantric Edging
Welcome to the Art of Tantric Edging: Transforming Intimacy
Dive into the Art of Tantric Edging, where you master the skill of delicately maintaining your partner on the brink of orgasm, thereby elevating your lovemaking to unprecedented heights!
This practice involves tuning into your partner's peak arousal and using techniques such as guided breathing and visualisation to expand the orgasmic experience. Rather than a fleeting moment, orgasm evolves into an extraordinary, full-body experience.
In this course, through a series of practical lessons, activities and experiential videos, you'll gain the expertise to keep your lover immersed in a profound state of ecstasy. This will not only lead to a more profound full-body climax when he chooses to release but also opens doors to advanced sexual experiences like achieving orgasm without ejaculation or exploring the realms of being multi-orgasmic.
While there is absolutely nothing wrong with a good ole rub n tug, this usually focuses on the ending or orgasm and not the full journey from start to finish. It is in the middle where you can find ecstasy and bliss!
Prepare to embark on a transformative journey, where the possibilities for pleasure and connection are truly limitless!
Breaking Free of Gender Roles
This journey you're embarking on is like no other. It may seem daunting at first, but the investment of time and effort is profoundly rewarding.
But first, lets talk about gender roles.
In the realm of intimacy, both men and women often find themselves confined by rigid gender roles. However, transcending these can lead to deeper, more meaningful connections with your partner.
Your man might not be accustomed to this kind of focussed attention. Prepare to be amazed by his reaction as you step out of the traditional role of receiver and embrace being an active giver. This shift can significantly strengthen your bond.
We, as women, are acutely aware of the societal pressures surrounding sexuality. Yet, it's important to recognise that men, too, are subject to these constraints, sometimes even more so. Society frequently expects them to initiate intimacy, to conform to specific roles in physical encounters, often neglecting the rich, shared pleasure that arises when mindfulness, trust, and vulnerability are embraced.
This new approach may initially feel at odds with your usual expressions of love. Yet, once integrated, it can profoundly transform the depth and quality of your connection.
Our focus here is on the journey, not the destination—a concept that many men overlook in their eagerness to please. By shifting the focus to his pleasure, you allow his vulnerability to emerge, a prospect that can be daunting but incredibly enriching.
Embrace each other’s vulnerability with tenderness. When trust and open communication form the bedrock of your relationship, you'll scale new heights of closeness and intimacy you never imagined possible.
And who doesn’t desire the most passionate, invigorating relationship? Your confidence will surge, further cementing your connection.
But first, ask yourself: Are you prepared to devote your entire attention to your partner? Do you yearn to provide him with an exhilarating experience? Are you willing to step out of your comfort zone to demonstrate the depth of your commitment?
If your answer is a resounding yes, then I am thrilled for you to elevate your relationship to extraordinary new levels!
Trust and Vulnerability
As you delve deeper into the world of Tantric Edging, it's about exploring and understanding your partner's threshold of arousal.
The art lies in gently guiding him to stay just below or at this peak. This may be an entirely novel experience for him, so it's important to approach it with a sense of reverence and care. Cherish this opportunity, holding it tenderly in your heart.
In this journey, trust and vulnerability are not just elements; they are the very foundation that allows you both to soar to new heights of ecstasy. These aren't just moments; they're the keystones of a profound, shared experience.
As you embark on this path together, trust transforms into the cornerstone of your exploration. Engaging in open and ongoing communication becomes crucial. It's essential for navigating his boundaries and vulnerabilities, creating a space where both of you feel safe and heard.
Be prepared for surprises along the way. The journey of Tantric Edging may bring unexpected outcomes, and that's part of its beauty. These moments, whether planned or unplanned, are integral to deepening your bond. They're opportunities to grow and explore together, further enriching your connection.
A simple yet powerful practice to enhance this journey is maintaining eye contact and synchronising your breath. This not only intensifies your connection but also deepens the intimacy between you. We will be practicing Tantric Breathing and visualisation techniques in the next section.
As you gaze into each other's eyes and breathe together, you create a rhythm that harmonises your experiences, drawing you closer in a dance of mutual understanding and love.
Each of these elements combines to create an experience that transcends the physical, weaving a tapestry of emotional depth and sensual fulfilment.
Breath, Focus, and Visualisation Mastery
Welcome to the enchanting realm of "Breath, Focus, and Visualisation Mastery," a pivotal section in your transformative journey through the Art of Tantric Edging. In this section, we delve into practices that are not just exercises but are the very essence of deepening your Tantric journey.
As you've embarked on this path, you've begun to explore the profound connection between mind, body, and spirit. Tantric Edging is not merely a physical interaction; it's a dance of energies, an exchange of profound understanding, and a celebration of intimacy at its deepest level. To fully embrace and master this art, two key skills are indispensable: focused attention and Loving Presence.
Remain Grounded and Centred
In this section, you'll engage in practices designed to refine your focus and deepen your sense of presence. The exercises here are carefully crafted to enhance your ability to remain grounded and centred, regardless of external distractions. This mastery of focus and presence is crucial in Tantric Touch, as it allows for a more profound and fulfilling exchange of energies.
First, we'll explore a breathing and visualisation exercise, guiding you to a place where you can harness your focus and visualise the flow of energy. This practice is not just about breath control; it's a journey into the heart of your inner self, where you'll learn to channel and direct energy with intention and love.
The exercises in this section are stepping stones to a richer, more attuned experience in Tantric Edging. As you practice, you'll find yourself becoming more in tune with your partner's energy, more responsive to their needs, and more deeply connected in every touch.
Embrace this journey with an open heart and mind.
Let each breath bring you closer to mastery, each moment of focus deepen your connection, and each visualisation illuminate the path of your Tantric journey. Welcome to a world where breath, focus, and visualisation converge to create a tapestry of profound intimacy and connection.
Breathing and Visualisation Exercise: Embracing Focus and Energy
In this tranquil journey, we invite you to a realm of serene focus and vivid energy. This exercise is designed to cultivate your attention and awareness—essential qualities in the tapestry of interpersonal connection and a vital component of Tantric Edging.
Part 1: Mindful Breathing
1. Finding Your Sanctuary: Choose a peaceful spot where you can sit undisturbed. Let this be your sanctuary of tranquility.
2. Embracing Stillness: Close your eyes gently. Allow the rhythm of your breath to be your guide into a state of calmness.
3. The Dance of Breath: Focus on the natural flow of your breathing. Feel each inhalation and exhalation, the life force moving within you.
4. Returning to Breath: Your thoughts may wander, and that's part of the journey. Each time they do, gently guide your attention back to your breath. This act of returning is where the magic of focus blossoms.
Part 2: Colourful Visualisation
1. Inhaling Energy: As you breathe in, envision a vibrant stream of energy entering your body. This energy can be a radiant red, a serene blue, a lush green, or a sunny yellow—choose what resonates with you.
2. The Body as a Canvas: Imagine this coloured energy flowing through you, invigorating every cell, every corner of your being.
3. Exhaling Transformation: As you exhale, picture this energy transforming, perhaps changing colour, symbolising the release of what no longer serves you.
4. Cyclical Exchange: Continue this cycle of breathing in vibrant energy and exhaling transformed light, feeling more connected with each breath.
Practice this exercise for five minutes initially. Over time, as you become more accustomed to the ebb and flow of breath and energy, you may extend the duration.
This practice is not just about focus; it's a celebration of your inner strength and the vibrant energy that you bring to every interaction. As you master this art of mindful breathing and visualisation, you'll find yourself more present, more attuned, and more connected in your relationships.
Mastering Loving Presence
In the world of Tantra, attention is the gateway to a deeper connection. It allows you to be truly present with your partner, to feel every nuance of their energy and respond with attunement and empathy. This heightened awareness is the foundation upon which the magic of Tantric Edging is built.
Loving Presence, on the other hand, is about embracing the essence of your partner beyond the physical realm. It's about recognising and cherishing the soulful qualities that make your connection unique. By cultivating Loving Presence, you create an environment of trust and vulnerability, essential for the Tantric journey.
Practicing Loving Presence
In the dance of intimacy, we introduce the mesmerising practice of 'Loving Presence.' This concept transcends mere physical attraction, inviting a deeper exploration of the soulful qualities that kindle your relationship's fire. It's about uncovering and cherishing the traits that fuel your mutual adoration and understanding, elevating your bond beyond the mundane.
Loving Presence beckons you to gaze past the surface, to the very core of your partner's being. Recall those qualities that first set your heart ablaze. Was it his courage, his kindness, or perhaps his deep empathy? Re-discover these facets, and let them resonate anew in your heart.
Exercise 1: Embracing Loving Presence
Embark on an exercise of reflection. In a quiet space, ponder the three qualities in your partner that inspire and nourish your spirit. Write these down, feeling the connection deepen with each word.
Perhaps it's their bravery that echoes in your soul, their resilience that stirs your determination, or their compassion that touches your essence. Cherish these qualities, letting them guide you to a deeper intimacy.
Exercise 2: Loving Presence Meditation
In a peaceful setting, visualise your partner, focusing o n the traits you adore. With each breath, deepen this connection, feeling the appreciation and love you hold. This meditation creates a sacred space for your love to flourish, deepening your bond and transforming your relationship.
Mastering Loving Presence
This journey of awareness and gratitude towards your partner's unique essence deepens your connection. Through mindful exercises and heartfelt communication, celebrate the strengths and virtues that make your partner extraordinary.
Exercise 1: Embracing Loving Presence
Embark on an exercise of reflection. In a quiet space, ponder the three qualities in your partner that inspire and nourish your spirit. Write these down, feeling the connection deepen with each word.
Perhaps it's their bravery that echoes in your soul, their resilience that stirs your determination, or their compassion that touches your essence. Cherish these qualities, letting them guide you to a deeper intimacy.
Exercise 2: Loving Presence Meditation
In a peaceful setting, visualise your partner, focusing o n the traits you adore. With each breath, deepen this connection, feeling the appreciation and love you hold. This meditation creates a sacred space for your love to flourish, deepening your bond and transforming your relationship.
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Breathing and Visualisation Exercise: Embracing Focus and Energy
In this tranquil journey, we invite you to a realm of serene focus and vivid energy. This exercise is designed to cultivate your attention and awareness—essential qualities in the tapestry of interpersonal connection and a vital component of Tantric Edging.
Part 1: Mindful Breathing
1. Finding Your Sanctuary: Choose a peaceful spot where you can sit undisturbed. Let this be your sanctuary of tranquility.
2. Embracing Stillness: Close your eyes gently. Allow the rhythm of your breath to be your guide into a state of calmness.
3. The Dance of Breath: Focus on the natural flow of your breathing. Feel each inhalation and exhalation, the life force moving within you.
4. Returning to Breath: Your thoughts may wander, and that's part of the journey. Each time they do, gently guide your attention back to your breath. This act of returning is where the magic of focus blossoms.
Part 2: Colourful Visualisation
1. Inhaling Energy: As you breathe in, envision a vibrant stream of energy entering your body. This energy can be a radiant red, a serene blue, a lush green, or a sunny yellow—choose what resonates with you.
2. The Body as a Canvas: Imagine this coloured energy flowing through you, invigorating every cell, every corner of your being.
3. Exhaling Transformation: As you exhale, picture this energy transforming, perhaps changing colour, symbolising the release of what no longer serves you.
4. Cyclical Exchange: Continue this cycle of breathing in vibrant energy and exhaling transformed light, feeling more connected with each breath.
Practice this exercise for five minutes initially. Over time, as you become more accustomed to the ebb and flow of breath and energy, you may extend the duration.
This practice is not just about focus; it's a celebration of your inner strength and the vibrant energy that you bring to every interaction. As you master this art of mindful breathing and visualisation, you'll find yourself more present, more attuned, and more connected in your relationships.
Creating Sensual Space
Creating a sacred and sensual space for Tantric practice is about crafting an environment that not only eases your lover away from the daily grind but also captures the raw essence of sensuality and sexuality. It's a realm where the ordinary transforms into the extraordinary, where every element is a tender invitation to deeper intimacy.
Imagine stepping into a space that instantly whispers of escape and allure. The clutter of the outside world vanishes, leaving a clean, organised setting that beckons your partner to shed the stresses of their day. In this sanctuary, there's no room for mundane distractions like a sink brimming with dishes or a floor strewn with laundry. It's a haven where the ordinary life stays at the door, allowing a seamless transition into a world of sensual exploration.
Consider the ambiance of your space. Is there a bookshelf teeming with books, creating a visual clutter? Sometimes, the simplest solutions, like a tasteful drape, can transform a chaotic corner into a serene backdrop, enhancing the tranquil vibe we aim for.
The play of light and music in your space is like the gentle caress of a lover – it should enhance, not overpower. The melody should weave through the air, a subtle, sensual thread that binds your shared experience. Be mindful of the pitfalls of free music services; an ill-timed ad can jolt you out of your transcendent state. Your chosen music should be a reflection of you, a sonic landscape that resonates with your soul. Whether it's the Eastern inflections of Kamasutra Erotic Chillout (my fave!) or a personalised Spotify mix of eclectic genres, let it be music that speaks to you, for in doing so, it will speak to your partner.
And what of the world outside? The gentle breeze from an open window can be refreshing, but consider if the sounds and sights of the outside world might intrude upon your sacred space. The balance between inviting nature and preserving privacy is a delicate dance.
As you delve into the tactile delights of Tantric Edging, the choice of lubricants can elevate the experience. Warm coconut oil, for instance, is a sensual delight. The art lies in finding the perfect quantity – enough to enrich the touch, yet not so much that it diminishes the exquisite friction of skin on skin. It's not just about the application; it's about the journey. Introduce the oil gradually, let each application be an act of anticipation, a sensory promise that heightens arousal.
Remember, this journey is about more than just creating a physical space; it's about crafting an experience. Every detail, every choice, is a thread in the tapestry of your Tantric exploration. Let your space be a reflection of your intentions, a sacred environment that nurtures and deepens the bond between you and your partner.
The Tantric Edging Session
As you embark on this Tantric journey, it's about gently ushering your partner into a state of deep relaxation and openness. Picture this: your partner, resting peacefully, while you lovingly place one hand over their linguam, the other over their heart.
Together, you embark on a journey of harmonious breathing, a symphony of inhalations and exhalations that not only unite your energies but also deepen your intimate bond.
Imagine this sacred space where breathing together isn't just a practice but a profound ritual that weaves a connection between your souls. Every breath you take in unison is a step further into a world of heightened intimacy and trust. It’s a dance of energies, a beautiful balance between giving and receiving, where your partner learns the art of simply being and experiencing.
In this shared space, envision your energy flowing like a healing river from your heart to theirs, through every touch and every breath. This isn't just about physical relaxation; it's about opening doorways to deeper emotional connections. It's about nurturing trust and building a sanctuary where vulnerability becomes the cornerstone of your relationship.
And as your partner surrenders to this experience, they may discover sensations they've never felt before – energy radiating from their fingertips, a sense of ecstasy that transcends the physical. It's a testament to the power of your connected energies.
Remember, the Art of Tantric Edging is a delicate balance of relaxation and arousal. It’s about guiding your partner through the ebbs and flows of their sensations, navigating the peaks and valleys of their arousal with empathy and care. Your touch, your breath, and your presence become the guiding lights in this exploration of sensuality.
As you continue on this path, keep in mind that true connection lies in authenticity and open communication. Encourage your partner to express their feelings and desires, and in turn, listen with an open heart. This mutual understanding is the key to a fulfilling Tantric experience.
So, as you begin this journey, choose your movements with intention, guiding your partner's energy with grace and sensitivity. And in those moments when the world outside fades away, and all that remains is the two of you, connected in a dance of intimacy, remember that this is the essence of Tantric Edging – a path to deeper understanding, trust, and unbound pleasure.
Tantric Techniques
As we embark on the enchanting exploration of the Art of Tantric Edging, remember, this journey is about much more than just physical touch; it's an art form that awakens and celebrates the senses.
Each movement, whether it's a gentle sway of your partner's body or the light, tantalising trace of fingernails across the skin, is an invitation to deeper connection and sensory delight.
This section is not a rigid sequence of steps to follow but a canvas for your creativity and intuition. Approach each technique with an open heart, seeking consent and respecting boundaries, as you explore the varied landscapes of touch and sensation.
The accompanying videos are not just guides but inspirations, encouraging you to experiment and discover what resonates most deeply with you and your partner.
Embrace this journey with a spirit of playfulness and discovery, finding joy in each shared moment of Tantric exploration.
Place one hand on the shaft and the other on the top/tip and juice it like you would when juicing a lemon. This move can be shown as small circles at the top or back and forth over the top/tip. This move is also known as Teasing the Tip!
This move can be used both on a flaccid linguam or with different degrees of hardness. Place your hand on the shaft and move the linguam to different hours on the clock. Stroke from the base up and out towards the different times on a clock. Shake or
stroke the linguam up to the noon position and move around the clock, stroking from base to tip, 12pm-3pm-6pm-9pm and back to the beginning. Take note: not all linguams go in the direction that you may be trying, don’t force in any direction that
doesn’t happen naturally. You may get more movement with a softer linguam, so this is a good move to do at the beginning of a session!
This move works well regardless of the hardness of the linguam. Placing your hand at the base of the linguam so your thumb and finger touch each other, slowly move up the shaft squeezing the linguam as you move up. Each squeeze should be independent of
each other, you want them to feel each squeeze as it moves centimeter by centimeter right up to the tip!
This works well with a hard linguam but can be easily adapted to a softer linguam. Start at the base and stroke upwards continuously with both hands, all the way up with the right hand and all the way up with the left hand and then switch, all the way
down, left hand, right hand, both or a combination of them all. You want them to feel that it is a continuous motion so they don’t know when one hand ends and the other begins.
I sometimes tease my clients and ask them which one they like best… all the way down or all the way up? Smiles, they usually can’t decide 😉 Another thing to think about when stroking all the way up is to stroke past the tip, pulling that energy
up past where their linguam ends into the energy realm beyond that. It can be quite the sensation!
…well don’t shout! But twist your lil heart out. Twist with your left hand, your right hand, both hands, twist up, twist down, slowly or quickly, this move is so versatile they won’t know what is happening next!
While using your hands to raise his erotic energy will lead to amazing experiences, don't be shy to expand your repertoire and incorporate your breasts into the massage! Breasts both look and feel amazing, and when wrapped around a linguam they are sure to blow his mind.
There are many ways to incorporate your breasts into the experience depending on your comfort level and the size of your breasts. You can rub the head of his linguam across your breasts, taking care to pay special attention to your nipples. Keeping eye contact while rubbing his linguam against your breasts is sure to get his attention.
Turn up the heat by bringing his linguam between your breasts! Squeeze your breasts together, creating a warm and soft bed for his erection to enjoy. Don't be shy about stroking his penis with your hands, using your favourite strokes to drive him wild. Alternatively, you can also invite him to thrust between your breasts while squeezing them together, creating an erotic experience he will never forget. Don't be shy about using lots of warm oil!
This is a popular request and a mainstream fantasy so go ahead and use more than your hands!
Double your Pleasure and use two hands! Tantric Edging is all about creativity, so get ready expand your repertoire and have fun!
There are many ways you can Double your Pleasure, but here are a few tricks to get you started!
- Gently take his balls in one hand while stroking his linguam with the other. You can squeeze them a little, or draw your fingernails lightly across the scrotum for added effect! This will create a mix of contrasting sensations that will drive him wild.
- Caress only the sides of the shaft as you stroke up from the root to the head and back down. By leaving the sensitive underside of the penis untouched, you please and tease at the same time!
- Place the linguam in your hands holding it with your thumbs and cross country ski your thumbs up the shaft to the tip. Do this several times before switching moves.
- If the linguam is softer, gripping the base with one hand will help harden it by acting like a linguam ring. You can perform a variety of strokes with your other hand while keeping a firm grip on the base with your hand. It also gives the impression that you are taking firm control of his penis, which is always a turn on!
- Actively using two hands will also help to spread his sexual energy up and away from his genitals, thereby creating more of a full-body experience. For more on this, please view the Spreading Sexual Energy video.
Dare to enter the Pleasure Triangle with this bold and exciting move!
Begin by making a triangle with your hands so your thumbs create the bottom part of the triangle. Then lay your hands flat against his groin, with his erection rising up from the space between your thumbs and forefingers. Keeping the edges of your hands snug against the shaft, slowly rise your hands up the tip and then back down to the base. Repeat the motion slowly and sensuously and watch his erotic temperature rise!
Another variation of this move is to leave one hand gripping the base of the linguam while the other strokes up and down the shaft. This creates the 'linguam ring' effect, concentrating more blood in the shaft which can help softer linguams stay harder.
No cracking! Don’t forget the balls! Gently grab the skin above the balls so you can separate them from the shaft. Depending on the person on your table you can have a light or firmer grip. Caress the balls with warm oils and your hands, add in light tapping but please check in, balls are a very delicate subject 🙂
In addition to teasing the balls, you can also use your thumb, fingers or knuckles to knead, stroke and vibrate the area between his balls and his anus. This area is very sensitive, and will drive him wild!
Spreading the energy with your hands helps keep both you and your client present and mindful in the moment. Moving or directing the energies up and away from the centre of the body while at the same time encouraging the client to breathe in that energy and envision it travelling through out the body keeps the client aware of the moving sensations, and gives them control over their orgasm.
This helps the sexual energy to radiate throughout the body and not be so localized. My clients share with me that they feel more in control of their orgasm and can feel it all over their body. They can feel it in rising up their center and some can even feel it shooting from their fingers and toes. I incorporate this throughout the session, especially if we are hitting one of their peaks but we are not ready to bring them all the way to orgasm. It keeps the vibrations up while the clients is spreading that energy throughout their body with the use of their breath.
Just because a Linguam is flaccid doesn't mean you can't have fun! Most of the techniques featured in this class can be adapted to softer Linguam, and I encourage you to do so. There is a serious taboo in our society concerning softer Linguam, and many men believe that an inability to achieve an erection means the end of their sex life. Not so!
By using the techniques described here and adapting them to a softer Linguam, you can help your partner overcome his inhibitions and experience pleasure he may have believed were out of his reach.
Be creative! Who knows where the winds of pleasure will take you 😉
Conclusion: Embracing the Journey Together
As we draw this transformative journey through the Art of Tantric Edging to a close, remember that what we've explored is just the beginning of a deeper exploration into intimacy, trust, and mutual fulfilment.
Through the practices of mindful breathing, visualisation, and the creation of a sacred space, we've embarked on a path that transcends mere physical connection, weaving a tapestry of emotional depth and heightened sensual experience.
Tantric Edging is not just a technique; it's a doorway to exploring and understanding the profound potential of shared erotic energy. It's about recognising and cherishing the soulful connection that flourishes when we approach intimacy with reverence, care, and an open heart.
As you continue to practice and explore these techniques with your partner, remember that the journey itself is the destination. The trust, vulnerability, and deep connection you cultivate will not only enhance your physical experiences but will also strengthen the emotional and spiritual bonds between you.
Let each session be an opportunity to grow closer, to learn more about each other, and to celebrate the unique beauty of your partnership. Embrace this path with an open heart and mind, and let the experiences you share illuminate the rich tapestry of your relationship.
Thank you for allowing me to guide you through this journey. May the practices and insights gained here continue to enrich and deepen your connection with your partner, as you explore the boundless realms of love, intimacy, and pleasure together.
Dive into the Art of Tantric Edging, where you master the skill of delicately maintaining your partner on the brink of orgasm, thereby elevating your lovemaking to unprecedented heights!
This practice involves tuning into your partner's peak arousal and using techniques such as guided breathing and visualisation to expand the orgasmic experience. Rather than a fleeting moment, orgasm evolves into an extraordinary, full-body experience.
In this course, through a series of practical lessons, activities and experiential videos, you'll gain the expertise to keep your lover immersed in a profound state of ecstasy. This will not only lead to a more profound full-body climax when he chooses to release but also opens doors to advanced sexual experiences like achieving orgasm without ejaculation or exploring the realms of being multi-orgasmic.
While there is absolutely nothing wrong with a good ole rub n tug, this usually focuses on the ending or orgasm and not the full journey from start to finish. It is in the middle where you can find ecstasy and bliss!
Prepare to embark on a transformative journey, where the possibilities for pleasure and connection are truly limitless!
This journey you're embarking on is like no other. It may seem daunting at first, but the investment of time and effort is profoundly rewarding.
But first, lets talk about gender roles.
In the realm of intimacy, both men and women often find themselves confined by rigid gender roles. However, transcending these can lead to deeper, more meaningful connections with your partner.
Your man might not be accustomed to this kind of focussed attention. Prepare to be amazed by his reaction as you step out of the traditional role of receiver and embrace being an active giver. This shift can significantly strengthen your bond.
We, as women, are acutely aware of the societal pressures surrounding sexuality. Yet, it's important to recognise that men, too, are subject to these constraints, sometimes even more so. Society frequently expects them to initiate intimacy, to conform to specific roles in physical encounters, often neglecting the rich, shared pleasure that arises when mindfulness, trust, and vulnerability are embraced.
This new approach may initially feel at odds with your usual expressions of love. Yet, once integrated, it can profoundly transform the depth and quality of your connection.
Our focus here is on the journey, not the destination—a concept that many men overlook in their eagerness to please. By shifting the focus to his pleasure, you allow his vulnerability to emerge, a prospect that can be daunting but incredibly enriching.
Embrace each other’s vulnerability with tenderness. When trust and open communication form the bedrock of your relationship, you'll scale new heights of closeness and intimacy you never imagined possible.
And who doesn’t desire the most passionate, invigorating relationship? Your confidence will surge, further cementing your connection.
But first, ask yourself: Are you prepared to devote your entire attention to your partner? Do you yearn to provide him with an exhilarating experience? Are you willing to step out of your comfort zone to demonstrate the depth of your commitment?
If your answer is a resounding yes, then I am thrilled for you to elevate your relationship to extraordinary new levels!
As you delve deeper into the world of Tantric Edging, it's about exploring and understanding your partner's threshold of arousal.
The art lies in gently guiding him to stay just below or at this peak. This may be an entirely novel experience for him, so it's important to approach it with a sense of reverence and care. Cherish this opportunity, holding it tenderly in your heart.
In this journey, trust and vulnerability are not just elements; they are the very foundation that allows you both to soar to new heights of ecstasy. These aren't just moments; they're the keystones of a profound, shared experience.
As you embark on this path together, trust transforms into the cornerstone of your exploration. Engaging in open and ongoing communication becomes crucial. It's essential for navigating his boundaries and vulnerabilities, creating a space where both of you feel safe and heard.
Be prepared for surprises along the way. The journey of Tantric Edging may bring unexpected outcomes, and that's part of its beauty. These moments, whether planned or unplanned, are integral to deepening your bond. They're opportunities to grow and explore together, further enriching your connection.
A simple yet powerful practice to enhance this journey is maintaining eye contact and synchronising your breath. This not only intensifies your connection but also deepens the intimacy between you. We will be practicing Tantric Breathing and visualisation techniques in the next section.
As you gaze into each other's eyes and breathe together, you create a rhythm that harmonises your experiences, drawing you closer in a dance of mutual understanding and love.
Each of these elements combines to create an experience that transcends the physical, weaving a tapestry of emotional depth and sensual fulfilment.
Welcome to the enchanting realm of "Breath, Focus, and Visualisation Mastery," a pivotal section in your transformative journey through the Art of Tantric Edging. In this section, we delve into practices that are not just exercises but are the very essence of deepening your Tantric journey.
As you've embarked on this path, you've begun to explore the profound connection between mind, body, and spirit. Tantric Edging is not merely a physical interaction; it's a dance of energies, an exchange of profound understanding, and a celebration of intimacy at its deepest level. To fully embrace and master this art, two key skills are indispensable: focused attention and Loving Presence.
Remain Grounded and Centred
In this section, you'll engage in practices designed to refine your focus and deepen your sense of presence. The exercises here are carefully crafted to enhance your ability to remain grounded and centred, regardless of external distractions. This mastery of focus and presence is crucial in Tantric Touch, as it allows for a more profound and fulfilling exchange of energies.
First, we'll explore a breathing and visualisation exercise, guiding you to a place where you can harness your focus and visualise the flow of energy. This practice is not just about breath control; it's a journey into the heart of your inner self, where you'll learn to channel and direct energy with intention and love.
The exercises in this section are stepping stones to a richer, more attuned experience in Tantric Edging. As you practice, you'll find yourself becoming more in tune with your partner's energy, more responsive to their needs, and more deeply connected in every touch.
Embrace this journey with an open heart and mind.
Let each breath bring you closer to mastery, each moment of focus deepen your connection, and each visualisation illuminate the path of your Tantric journey. Welcome to a world where breath, focus, and visualisation converge to create a tapestry of profound intimacy and connection.
Breathing and Visualisation Exercise: Embracing Focus and Energy
In this tranquil journey, we invite you to a realm of serene focus and vivid energy. This exercise is designed to cultivate your attention and awareness—essential qualities in the tapestry of interpersonal connection and a vital component of Tantric Edging.
Part 1: Mindful Breathing
1. Finding Your Sanctuary: Choose a peaceful spot where you can sit undisturbed. Let this be your sanctuary of tranquility.
2. Embracing Stillness: Close your eyes gently. Allow the rhythm of your breath to be your guide into a state of calmness.
3. The Dance of Breath: Focus on the natural flow of your breathing. Feel each inhalation and exhalation, the life force moving within you.
4. Returning to Breath: Your thoughts may wander, and that's part of the journey. Each time they do, gently guide your attention back to your breath. This act of returning is where the magic of focus blossoms.
Part 2: Colourful Visualisation
1. Inhaling Energy: As you breathe in, envision a vibrant stream of energy entering your body. This energy can be a radiant red, a serene blue, a lush green, or a sunny yellow—choose what resonates with you.
2. The Body as a Canvas: Imagine this coloured energy flowing through you, invigorating every cell, every corner of your being.
3. Exhaling Transformation: As you exhale, picture this energy transforming, perhaps changing colour, symbolising the release of what no longer serves you.
4. Cyclical Exchange: Continue this cycle of breathing in vibrant energy and exhaling transformed light, feeling more connected with each breath.
Practice this exercise for five minutes initially. Over time, as you become more accustomed to the ebb and flow of breath and energy, you may extend the duration.
This practice is not just about focus; it's a celebration of your inner strength and the vibrant energy that you bring to every interaction. As you master this art of mindful breathing and visualisation, you'll find yourself more present, more attuned, and more connected in your relationships.
In the world of Tantra, attention is the gateway to a deeper connection. It allows you to be truly present with your partner, to feel every nuance of their energy and respond with attunement and empathy. This heightened awareness is the foundation upon which the magic of Tantric Edging is built.
Loving Presence, on the other hand, is about embracing the essence of your partner beyond the physical realm. It's about recognising and cherishing the soulful qualities that make your connection unique. By cultivating Loving Presence, you create an environment of trust and vulnerability, essential for the Tantric journey.
Practicing Loving Presence
In the dance of intimacy, we introduce the mesmerising practice of 'Loving Presence.' This concept transcends mere physical attraction, inviting a deeper exploration of the soulful qualities that kindle your relationship's fire. It's about uncovering and cherishing the traits that fuel your mutual adoration and understanding, elevating your bond beyond the mundane.
Loving Presence beckons you to gaze past the surface, to the very core of your partner's being. Recall those qualities that first set your heart ablaze. Was it his courage, his kindness, or perhaps his deep empathy? Re-discover these facets, and let them resonate anew in your heart.
Exercise 1: Embracing Loving Presence
Embark on an exercise of reflection. In a quiet space, ponder the three qualities in your partner that inspire and nourish your spirit. Write these down, feeling the connection deepen with each word.
Perhaps it's their bravery that echoes in your soul, their resilience that stirs your determination, or their compassion that touches your essence. Cherish these qualities, letting them guide you to a deeper intimacy.
Exercise 2: Loving Presence Meditation
In a peaceful setting, visualise your partner, focusing o n the traits you adore. With each breath, deepen this connection, feeling the appreciation and love you hold. This meditation creates a sacred space for your love to flourish, deepening your bond and transforming your relationship.
Creating a sacred and sensual space for Tantric practice is about crafting an environment that not only eases your lover away from the daily grind but also captures the raw essence of sensuality and sexuality. It's a realm where the ordinary transforms into the extraordinary, where every element is a tender invitation to deeper intimacy.
Imagine stepping into a space that instantly whispers of escape and allure. The clutter of the outside world vanishes, leaving a clean, organised setting that beckons your partner to shed the stresses of their day. In this sanctuary, there's no room for mundane distractions like a sink brimming with dishes or a floor strewn with laundry. It's a haven where the ordinary life stays at the door, allowing a seamless transition into a world of sensual exploration.
Consider the ambiance of your space. Is there a bookshelf teeming with books, creating a visual clutter? Sometimes, the simplest solutions, like a tasteful drape, can transform a chaotic corner into a serene backdrop, enhancing the tranquil vibe we aim for.
The play of light and music in your space is like the gentle caress of a lover – it should enhance, not overpower. The melody should weave through the air, a subtle, sensual thread that binds your shared experience. Be mindful of the pitfalls of free music services; an ill-timed ad can jolt you out of your transcendent state. Your chosen music should be a reflection of you, a sonic landscape that resonates with your soul. Whether it's the Eastern inflections of Kamasutra Erotic Chillout (my fave!) or a personalised Spotify mix of eclectic genres, let it be music that speaks to you, for in doing so, it will speak to your partner.
And what of the world outside? The gentle breeze from an open window can be refreshing, but consider if the sounds and sights of the outside world might intrude upon your sacred space. The balance between inviting nature and preserving privacy is a delicate dance.
As you delve into the tactile delights of Tantric Edging, the choice of lubricants can elevate the experience. Warm coconut oil, for instance, is a sensual delight. The art lies in finding the perfect quantity – enough to enrich the touch, yet not so much that it diminishes the exquisite friction of skin on skin. It's not just about the application; it's about the journey. Introduce the oil gradually, let each application be an act of anticipation, a sensory promise that heightens arousal.
Remember, this journey is about more than just creating a physical space; it's about crafting an experience. Every detail, every choice, is a thread in the tapestry of your Tantric exploration. Let your space be a reflection of your intentions, a sacred environment that nurtures and deepens the bond between you and your partner.
As you embark on this Tantric journey, it's about gently ushering your partner into a state of deep relaxation and openness. Picture this: your partner, resting peacefully, while you lovingly place one hand over their linguam, the other over their heart.
Together, you embark on a journey of harmonious breathing, a symphony of inhalations and exhalations that not only unite your energies but also deepen your intimate bond.
Imagine this sacred space where breathing together isn't just a practice but a profound ritual that weaves a connection between your souls. Every breath you take in unison is a step further into a world of heightened intimacy and trust. It’s a dance of energies, a beautiful balance between giving and receiving, where your partner learns the art of simply being and experiencing.
In this shared space, envision your energy flowing like a healing river from your heart to theirs, through every touch and every breath. This isn't just about physical relaxation; it's about opening doorways to deeper emotional connections. It's about nurturing trust and building a sanctuary where vulnerability becomes the cornerstone of your relationship.
And as your partner surrenders to this experience, they may discover sensations they've never felt before – energy radiating from their fingertips, a sense of ecstasy that transcends the physical. It's a testament to the power of your connected energies.
Remember, the Art of Tantric Edging is a delicate balance of relaxation and arousal. It’s about guiding your partner through the ebbs and flows of their sensations, navigating the peaks and valleys of their arousal with empathy and care. Your touch, your breath, and your presence become the guiding lights in this exploration of sensuality.
As you continue on this path, keep in mind that true connection lies in authenticity and open communication. Encourage your partner to express their feelings and desires, and in turn, listen with an open heart. This mutual understanding is the key to a fulfilling Tantric experience.
So, as you begin this journey, choose your movements with intention, guiding your partner's energy with grace and sensitivity. And in those moments when the world outside fades away, and all that remains is the two of you, connected in a dance of intimacy, remember that this is the essence of Tantric Edging – a path to deeper understanding, trust, and unbound pleasure.
As we embark on the enchanting exploration of the Art of Tantric Edging, remember, this journey is about much more than just physical touch; it's an art form that awakens and celebrates the senses.
Each movement, whether it's a gentle sway of your partner's body or the light, tantalising trace of fingernails across the skin, is an invitation to deeper connection and sensory delight.
This section is not a rigid sequence of steps to follow but a canvas for your creativity and intuition. Approach each technique with an open heart, seeking consent and respecting boundaries, as you explore the varied landscapes of touch and sensation.
The accompanying videos are not just guides but inspirations, encouraging you to experiment and discover what resonates most deeply with you and your partner.
Embrace this journey with a spirit of playfulness and discovery, finding joy in each shared moment of Tantric exploration.
Place one hand on the shaft and the other on the top/tip and juice it like you would when juicing a lemon. This move can be shown as small circles at the top or back and forth over the top/tip. This move is also known as Teasing the Tip!
This move can be used both on a flaccid linguam or with different degrees of hardness. Place your hand on the shaft and move the linguam to different hours on the clock. Stroke from the base up and out towards the different times on a clock. Shake or
stroke the linguam up to the noon position and move around the clock, stroking from base to tip, 12pm-3pm-6pm-9pm and back to the beginning. Take note: not all linguams go in the direction that you may be trying, don’t force in any direction that
doesn’t happen naturally. You may get more movement with a softer linguam, so this is a good move to do at the beginning of a session!
This move works well regardless of the hardness of the linguam. Placing your hand at the base of the linguam so your thumb and finger touch each other, slowly move up the shaft squeezing the linguam as you move up. Each squeeze should be independent of
each other, you want them to feel each squeeze as it moves centimeter by centimeter right up to the tip!
This works well with a hard linguam but can be easily adapted to a softer linguam. Start at the base and stroke upwards continuously with both hands, all the way up with the right hand and all the way up with the left hand and then switch, all the way
down, left hand, right hand, both or a combination of them all. You want them to feel that it is a continuous motion so they don’t know when one hand ends and the other begins.
I sometimes tease my clients and ask them which one they like best… all the way down or all the way up? Smiles, they usually can’t decide 😉 Another thing to think about when stroking all the way up is to stroke past the tip, pulling that energy
up past where their linguam ends into the energy realm beyond that. It can be quite the sensation!
…well don’t shout! But twist your lil heart out. Twist with your left hand, your right hand, both hands, twist up, twist down, slowly or quickly, this move is so versatile they won’t know what is happening next!
While using your hands to raise his erotic energy will lead to amazing experiences, don't be shy to expand your repertoire and incorporate your breasts into the massage! Breasts both look and feel amazing, and when wrapped around a linguam they are sure to blow his mind.
There are many ways to incorporate your breasts into the experience depending on your comfort level and the size of your breasts. You can rub the head of his linguam across your breasts, taking care to pay special attention to your nipples. Keeping eye contact while rubbing his linguam against your breasts is sure to get his attention.
Turn up the heat by bringing his linguam between your breasts! Squeeze your breasts together, creating a warm and soft bed for his erection to enjoy. Don't be shy about stroking his penis with your hands, using your favourite strokes to drive him wild. Alternatively, you can also invite him to thrust between your breasts while squeezing them together, creating an erotic experience he will never forget. Don't be shy about using lots of warm oil!
This is a popular request and a mainstream fantasy so go ahead and use more than your hands!
Double your Pleasure and use two hands! Tantric Edging is all about creativity, so get ready expand your repertoire and have fun!
There are many ways you can Double your Pleasure, but here are a few tricks to get you started!
- Gently take his balls in one hand while stroking his linguam with the other. You can squeeze them a little, or draw your fingernails lightly across the scrotum for added effect! This will create a mix of contrasting sensations that will drive him wild.
- Caress only the sides of the shaft as you stroke up from the root to the head and back down. By leaving the sensitive underside of the penis untouched, you please and tease at the same time!
- Place the linguam in your hands holding it with your thumbs and cross country ski your thumbs up the shaft to the tip. Do this several times before switching moves.
- If the linguam is softer, gripping the base with one hand will help harden it by acting like a linguam ring. You can perform a variety of strokes with your other hand while keeping a firm grip on the base with your hand. It also gives the impression that you are taking firm control of his penis, which is always a turn on!
- Actively using two hands will also help to spread his sexual energy up and away from his genitals, thereby creating more of a full-body experience. For more on this, please view the Spreading Sexual Energy video.
Dare to enter the Pleasure Triangle with this bold and exciting move!
Begin by making a triangle with your hands so your thumbs create the bottom part of the triangle. Then lay your hands flat against his groin, with his erection rising up from the space between your thumbs and forefingers. Keeping the edges of your hands snug against the shaft, slowly rise your hands up the tip and then back down to the base. Repeat the motion slowly and sensuously and watch his erotic temperature rise!
Another variation of this move is to leave one hand gripping the base of the linguam while the other strokes up and down the shaft. This creates the 'linguam ring' effect, concentrating more blood in the shaft which can help softer linguams stay harder.
No cracking! Don’t forget the balls! Gently grab the skin above the balls so you can separate them from the shaft. Depending on the person on your table you can have a light or firmer grip. Caress the balls with warm oils and your hands, add in light tapping but please check in, balls are a very delicate subject 🙂
In addition to teasing the balls, you can also use your thumb, fingers or knuckles to knead, stroke and vibrate the area between his balls and his anus. This area is very sensitive, and will drive him wild!
Spreading the energy with your hands helps keep both you and your client present and mindful in the moment. Moving or directing the energies up and away from the centre of the body while at the same time encouraging the client to breathe in that energy and envision it travelling through out the body keeps the client aware of the moving sensations, and gives them control over their orgasm.
This helps the sexual energy to radiate throughout the body and not be so localized. My clients share with me that they feel more in control of their orgasm and can feel it all over their body. They can feel it in rising up their center and some can even feel it shooting from their fingers and toes. I incorporate this throughout the session, especially if we are hitting one of their peaks but we are not ready to bring them all the way to orgasm. It keeps the vibrations up while the clients is spreading that energy throughout their body with the use of their breath.
Just because a Linguam is flaccid doesn't mean you can't have fun! Most of the techniques featured in this class can be adapted to softer Linguam, and I encourage you to do so. There is a serious taboo in our society concerning softer Linguam, and many men believe that an inability to achieve an erection means the end of their sex life. Not so!
By using the techniques described here and adapting them to a softer Linguam, you can help your partner overcome his inhibitions and experience pleasure he may have believed were out of his reach.
Be creative! Who knows where the winds of pleasure will take you 😉
As we draw this transformative journey through the Art of Tantric Edging to a close, remember that what we've explored is just the beginning of a deeper exploration into intimacy, trust, and mutual fulfilment.
Through the practices of mindful breathing, visualisation, and the creation of a sacred space, we've embarked on a path that transcends mere physical connection, weaving a tapestry of emotional depth and heightened sensual experience.
Tantric Edging is not just a technique; it's a doorway to exploring and understanding the profound potential of shared erotic energy. It's about recognising and cherishing the soulful connection that flourishes when we approach intimacy with reverence, care, and an open heart.
As you continue to practice and explore these techniques with your partner, remember that the journey itself is the destination. The trust, vulnerability, and deep connection you cultivate will not only enhance your physical experiences but will also strengthen the emotional and spiritual bonds between you.
Let each session be an opportunity to grow closer, to learn more about each other, and to celebrate the unique beauty of your partnership. Embrace this path with an open heart and mind, and let the experiences you share illuminate the rich tapestry of your relationship.
Thank you for allowing me to guide you through this journey. May the practices and insights gained here continue to enrich and deepen your connection with your partner, as you explore the boundless realms of love, intimacy, and pleasure together.